There are many couples all over the world who have broken up with their partners for some very simple misunderstandings. It's sad to think that many of these break-ups could have been completely avoided if each person had a clearer understanding of what their partner was thinking and what they wanted from the relationship.
Unfortunately, because men and women are biologically different, there are specific things we do that can easily drive a partner away rather than keeping them close as we had wanted. You might wonder why your relationship has ended at all. But the reality is that even good relationships do break up.
If men and women had a little more awareness of how the opposite sex was thinking, then breakups would never happen. In fact, you could have turned your relationship with your ex-lover into a life-long happy partnership where neither of you would ever consider looking for another relationship.
If you've recently broken up with the love of your life, don't feel that all is lost. There's still hope that you can win your ex-lover back and it's actually easier than you think.
The problem is that we're not taught how the opposite sex thinks, so it's mostly a mystery to most people. We're stuck trying out tactics that we think may work without ever considering what our partner would prefer instead.
Are you ready to bring your ex-lover back into your life? Are you really ready for them to fall in love with you, deeper and stronger than the first time around? Then read on.
It's unfortunate that sometimes even the very best relationships go sour, but, even if we cannot see it, at first, there is always a reason. There are actually countless reasons why good relationships turn bad and end up with a break-up. You might have endured meaningless arguments or you might have simply found that your ex-lover suddenly stopped communicating with you completely and then pulled away, leaving you in the dark about what was happening.
People who are hurting and unsure of where their partner is at in the relationship often end up doing the exact opposite of the things they should be doing to bring their ex-lover back to them.
This is because men will tend to do the things that seem logical to a man and women will tend to try the tactics that they would want to see. It is a big lesson to learn that men and women think differently. Applying male logic to the problem of winning back a female is usually counter-productive and vice versa.
The really sad part about this is that, despite their best intentions, in these situations, both men and women tend to do things that will actually turn off and push away the person they really want to bring back into their lives and without even knowing they're doing it.
This means they're often doing the complete opposite of what they should be doing to bring back their ex-lover and make that person a part of their lives again, yet they're totally unaware of it. Think about it. Is what you're doing right now to get your ex-lover back working for you? Or is it just driving that person further away from you, making you feel even worse?
Let's look at some of the things men and women think about during relationships and how they view the actions of their partner. These insights can often bring about a much deeper understanding of what might have gone wrong within the relationship and bring a deeper knowledge of what to do when good relationships go wrong.
Men and Women are Biologically Different
You may think that this is stating the obvious, but apart from the obvious differences, there are vital hormonal and other biological differences that set men and women apart.
For example, did you know that in order for men to decrease their stress levels, they'll often look for ways to increase testosterone? This means they'll watch the news when they get home from a long day, seeking to find ways to spark their own "fix it" mode. This means they may enjoy grappling with other people's problems because it sparks a need within them to try and solve the problems of the world. That may be what he is thinking about even though he might be stationary on the sofa. He will be unavailable for real-world problems while he is getting his own stress levels sorted out.
When their testosterone levels are raised, they'll feel much better about the world and seek to remedy their own problems only after they've calmed down enough after a hard day at work, where they’ve spent the day trying to show their loved ones how much of a good provider they can be.
Unfortunately, women have the completely opposite biological drives, which can cause problems within a relationship. For example, when a woman has increased testosterone levels within her body, it can actually increase her stress levels, causing her to want to fight about trivial matters that her partner can't possibly understand.
In order to reduce stress levels, women will find ways to generate the hormone oxytocin. Curiously, oxytocin is known in non-scientific circles as the "cuddle hormone" and it's been linked strongly to maternal behaviour as well as being the bonding hormone that makes a woman want to bond more strongly with a partner.
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